what women want

finally someone tells it as it is, the Ten Commandments, what men really want to hear from their women! and written by a guy no less.. from the horse's mouth et al (from Yahoo Health, by David Zinczenko)

1. "Your arms are definitely looking bigger."


Men can be just as paranoid about the way their bodies look as women can be. In fact, nearly 90 percent of men say there's at least one body part they'd like to change.


2. "Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha."


Guys spend all of high school, most of college, the better part of the work day, and at least 12 times a day via e-mail trying to make people laugh. A hearty, genuine laugh is as flattering as it gets.


3. "Wow."


Doesn't matter whether it comes as he's getting undressed or after you've finished having sex, this short, sweet word (best done in a whisper) may just be the ultimate ego-stroke.


4. "You the man."


Guys hear this all the time. From other guys. But if it comes from a woman -- no matter the context -- the message is that, hey, we're buddies, too. Which is actually pretty darn sexy.


5. "The kids just adore you."


More than 50 percent of men say that their families -- more so than work and salary -- are what defines them most as men. So when a woman affirms that he's a familial hero, it's a compliment that stretches way beyond anything you could ever say about his haircut.


6. "What do you think?"


When neither can concede on anything - whether it's the best way to move a piece of furniture or the fastest way to reach the interstate - then this is a good impasse-breaker.


7. "Cute feet."


Typically, guys care for the word "cute" about as much as Paris Hilton cares for the penal system. One exception: The part of the body that is classified as being especially gross. Tell a guy he has good feet, and somehow he takes it as a double-bagger compliment -- that you not only like his genetics, but also that you appreciate he can keep himself better groomed than the rest of the gnarly-nailed heathens out there.


8. "Meow."


The stats show that 61 percent of men think their partners aren't sexually adventurous enough. While a feline one-liner doesn't automatically qualify as adventurous, it does show a bit of inhibition, and the message is one he likes to hear: That perhaps he's brought a little bit of the animal out of you.


9. "Impressive."


Guys love feats and they love being acknowledged for their strength, power, and their masculinity. So a well-timed observation like this one - whether it comes after he carries a TV to the family room or figures out a way to fix the pipes without having to call the plumber - feeds into his need to feel like the family protector.


10. "I want you."


Women don't need to go on about a guy's eyes or hair or clothes. What a guy really wants to hear is that he's the total package, and this acknowledgement of that - whether it's referring to bedroom behavior or relationship stability - is the ultimate compliment of them all.